We resist what we are not yet ready to allow into our lives. The word resist means 'to push back' and that includes 'to knock down'. We go into fight mode when a portal opens and we are not ready to walk through that door, no matter how beneficial it may be, if it is bringing change when we are not ready to let go of where we are. And we can get quite feisty and may even surprise ourselves at how strong our objections are! Our focus may be on what we are resisting but I think we need to take a stronger look at what we are holding on to. And that has to do with our desire to win, to not fail, to achieve an outcome, and to meet our own expectations. That has nothing to do with the transformation we are looking at but it says a lot about how hard it can be to let go when we define letting go as failing. Shine on and let go, something always steps up to take its place.
We are living in challenging, confusing, and troubling times, on a personal and on a global scale and portals for transformation are opening in every direction. On a personal level we can feel like we are being forced to accept and adopt changes that we are not ready for and maybe didn’t want. Our resistance to change can be high and sometimes we refuse it entirely.
It’s not a character flaw to want to maintain the status quo but rather than looking at what we are not moving towards, I think it is more beneficial to look at what we are trying to hold on to and why, rather than blame, shame, criticize, and judge ourselves for not being able to release it.
Why do we hang onto something even if we know it isn’t useful, helpful, or know that the situation or person is not going to change? And we will go so far as to sabotage ourselves if we venture too far away from the status quo, doing anything to avoid change.
Whether we open that portal to change or it is opened for us because a situation ends or someone decides they are ready to move on, our resistance to change can surprise us. We can become very feisty when we feel we’re backed into a corner and we are convinced that we need to hang on to what we have even though it is not working for us, we aren’t happy, and we don’t see a future in it.
There is no way we can explore the benefits of transformation if we believe we are not willing or ready to make changes. And contrary to opinion, everything we hang on to does serve us, it just doesn’t serve us in ways that help us move forward. Instead, it serves our need to be validated, vindicated, to be right, to be acknowledged, to not lose, and to avoid failure.
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